Mondays, Jan. 4 – Feb. 1, 2021           11:45am-1:15pm          7.5 CEs

Via Videoconference

Members $200

Non-Members $250

Early Career Professionals (within 5 years of graduation) / Students / Retired $100

Why would a person hate someone they love? This salon will ponder the phenomena of hate that arises in the consulting room—our client’s hatred and our own. We will begin by exploring various psychodynamics of hate in close relationships, including narcissism and trauma bonds. We will proceed to consider the psychopathology of hatred, including the hate evidenced by clients with borderline and severe narcissistic personalities. Finally, we will address techniques for understanding and addressing transference hate. Of course, this also requires that we therapists recognize and understand our countertransference hate. This 5-session salon will utilize journal articles by classical and contemporary authors, offering an intermediate-level learning experience for clinicians. The salon has limited enrollment in order to maximize the opportunity for discussion of the concepts and clinical case material. It is intended to provide a respectful, supportive environment in which to explore difficult transference-countertransference matrices. The readings will be emailed to participants.


JoAnn Ponder, PhD is a psychologist-psychoanalyst who has a private practice in Austin providing psychoanalysis, psychotherapy, and supervision. During her prior employment, she worked with juvenile homicidal offenders and sex offenders. JoAnn completed her psychoanalytic training at the Center for Psychoanalytic Studies in Houston, where she currently serves on the faculty. She completed other postgraduate training programs in object relational family/couples therapy and infant-parent MH intervention. She has presented at local, national, and international psychoanalytic conferences. Her publications include a coedited book, book chapters, and journal articles about a variety of clinical and applied psychoanalytic topics, such as working with trauma, working in the displacement, and managing countertransference.


Jan. 4  The Psychodynamics of Hate in and from Close Relationships

Gabbard, G. (1993). On hate in love relationships: The narcissism of minor differences revisited.     Psychoanalytic Quarterly, 62: 229-238.

Lichtenberg, J. (2000). Hatred and its rewards: A case illustration. Psychoanalytic Inquiry, 20: 389-408.


Jan. 11  Trauma Bonds

Bollas, C. (1984). Loving hate. The Annual of Psychoanalysis, 12: 221-237.

Sonntag, M. (2007). The bonds of hate. Studies in Gender and Sexuality, 8: 97-112.


Jan. 18  Hatred in Character Disorders

Kernberg, O. (1991). The psychopathology of hatred. Journal of the American Psychoanalytic           Association, 39S: 209-238.

Kernberg, O. (2007). The almost untreatable narcissistic patient. Journal of the American Psychoanalytic     Association, 55: 503-539.


Jan. 25  Hatred in Borderline Personalities

Gabbard, G. (1991). Technical approaches to transference hate in the analysis of borderline patients.   International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 72: 625-636.

Sherby, L. (1989). Love and hate in the treatment of borderline patients. Contemporary Psychoanalysis, 25: 574-591.


Feb. 1 Hate in the Transference/Countertransference

Davies, J. (2004). Whose bad objects are we anyway? Repetition and our elusive love affair with evil.       Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 14: 711-732.

Winnicott, D. (1949). Hate in the countertransference. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 30: 69-         74.


Learning Objectives

1a) Is hate in close relationships always a repetition of early object relations? Explain why or why not.

1b) Explain how hate can serve as an attempted adaptation in close relationships.

2a) Describe the dynamics of a trauma bond.

2b) Give an example of a trauma bond.

3a) Describe what makes hatred psychopathological.

3b) Describe the factors that make a narcissistic patient almost untreatable.

4) Identify 2 technical approaches to the borderline patient’s transference hate.

5) Describe 2 ways of dealing with countertransference hate.


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